Couples and Relationships Therapy
“I just can’t do this anymore. We do not talk, we just bicker, then zone each other out. We do not communicate anymore. We are just roommates.”
In the beginning, you were both on top of the world, ready to conquer it together. You may have believed that your life had become a fairy tale, and the two of you would live happily ever after.
But no one told you how to maintain the relationship. There is no secret recipe. Relationships are just hard. You must work on them every day.
One of the things you have learned is that relationships are complicated, no matter how short or long. As you now know, there are challenges that you can overcome and others that you tend to bury under the rug. Until they start seeping up, forcing you to face them head on.
No one really taught you how to communicate, or how to ask what you need and like. Instead, you just give and give until you can’t anymore, eventually and begin distancing yourself.
When the children come into the picture, it becomes all about them. You begin to ignore your relationship. Or you just put the issues on the back burner and just fall into a daily routine. Your schedule is full, there is no time to build the relationship.
When the kids move away and your home becomes an empty nest, you realize the lack of connection and intimacy. You always have the same argument over and over again. You wonder, “Do I even know my partner anymore? WHO IS HE? And WHO AM I?
You thought you knew them, but it turns out now you really don’t. You may have discovered your partner was unfaithful at one point. It has now created a barrier of mistrust, blame, isolation, and shame.
Issues that couples have come to therapy for:
Communication problems
Connection and Intimacy
Conflict Resolution
Attachment Issues affecting the relationship
Infidelity and Trust issues
Financial Stress
Grief and Loss
Extended Family issues
Life Transitions
Addiction
Anxiety
Blended families
Merge of Divorce or Breakup
What to Expect in Couples & Relationships Therapy
I believe that relationships are worth fighting for. Everyone deserves a chance to re-connect.
If anything, you can say you gave it 100% and will live with the decision to stay together or not. In therapy you will be able to gain understanding of each other, strengthen the connection, and improve communication to have a healthy relationship.
You are the expert in this relationship. You and your partner have a unique bond, as you both bring learned experiences that you believe and ones that can make the difference.
You both have your love language, your own personality, your own dreams. There are no two people like you.
In my couple’s therapy sessions, I help you gain coping skills to communicate better, learn to resolve conflict, and build a stronger relationship. I also utilize play activities, role plays and explore various tools that you can use to rekindle your relationship and bring it to a higher level of connection.
